Kenapa wanita boleh curang?

Sejak akhir-akhir ini... banyak kisah-kisah dari rakan sahaya yang menjadi mangsa kecurangan pasangannya. Ade yang bercerai..

ada yang merelakannya tapi hidup dalam self-pity dan stress..

dan ade yang berjaya mengatasinya.. mereka sama-sama cuba untuk perbaiki hubungan... demi anak.

Tiga jenis penyelesaian ini jer yang ku dapat pastikan... kalau sampai bunuh pasangan kerana marah sangat.. hurmm.. tak jumpa lagi... heeee.. Berbalik pada topik...

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Kenapa wanita boleh curang?

Aku tertarik pada satu artikel yang ku pernah baca pada hari Ahad yang lepas. Tak ingat paper ape... cuma die merupakan seorang speaker, psychotherapist dan jugak  penulis. Bab-bab hubungan neh memang pakar la!

Klik gambar untuk ke laman webnya. =)

Agak menarik artikelnya berkenaan sebab-sebab wanita boleh curang. Aku ingatkan wanita sebagai makhluk yang lemah layak menjadi mangsa jer.. rupanya mereka pun boleh curang.

Mengikut penulisan puan Mary Jo neh..

Cheating is destructive in any relationship. Men and women both cheat for varied reasons. Women seldom cheat for the physical reasons and almost always cheat due to emotional attachments. This makes sense as women are emotional beings. Most sex, as well as intimacy, happens in our minds long before it happens to us physically. We play all sorts of “scenarios” in our head of how making love to this person would be, and we entertain words we want to hear as well. Women look for different types of people to cheat with than men do.

Waaa...... mengikut teks kat atas... wanita ini kuat imaginasi jugak ye? Siap membayangkan cara-cara nak make love dengan pasangan walaupun belum pernah buat lagi.. wawawa

A man may choose someone primarily on their looks or sex appeal. Women look at what the man does, how he behaves, as well as how emotional he can be with us. One of the primary reasons women cheat is because we feel that we aren't getting the attention we need or deserve from our partner. A woman gives up a lot of her power to her partner. This partner is responsible for making us feel desired, adored and loved. If this partner fails at displaying enough attention or reconfirming that we are most important, we become depressed and/or angry. We tell ourselves that we need to find someone else who will recognize our beauty and significance. This may put women in a position where an affair is likely.

Lelaki tertarik pada rupa.... wanita tertarik pada ape lelaki itu boleh buat.. Samada perangai die sesuai ke tak dengan perangai kita..  SO TRUE!!!

Errr.. tapi tang curang tuu...... sebab kurang perhatian dari pasangan.. seyes betul! So kepada lelaki di luar sana.. pastikan selalu "show your love" kepada pasangan anda..

There are other reasons that women cheat, including revenge, excitement, power, money, romance, falling in love or a difficult marriage (or relationship). When you look at all the reasons, it usually boils down to one very large and unavoidable issue. Having an affair has a lot to do with a low self-esteem. However, this reason won't stand up in the courts. Nor will it make your husband or partner any more forgiving. But, it is true.

Low self-esteem.... hehehe.. Yep, pernah terlintas di fikiran.. "ish.. kalau die jumpa wanita yang lebih cun, mesti die tak nak kat aku da"...aar.. kepercayaan penting...  =p

kekadang terfikir jugak.. kenapa wanita sanggup melacurkan diri.... mungkinkah sebab low self-esteem jugak??? Tak dapat meraih perhatian sepenuhnya dari seorang lelaki.. die amik perhatian dari "ramai" lelaki.. biar sekejap. Nak rasa dirinya diperlukan. Kan?

Many of my female patients struggle with their self-esteem as well as their confidence. Some of the struggle is physical, including their body image, such as their feelings about their looks and their feelings of how those close to them feel about their looks. The struggle is also emotional. This includes their ability to feel educated, confident or worthy to their family and friends. When counseling a couple after the woman has cheated, the husband usually remarks, “I told you every day you were beautiful, so why did you do this to us?” She did it, because although he told her how beautiful she was, she couldn't believe it. She is a vase with a leak in it. No matter how much water he pours in, it will leak out. The vase has a leak, and in this marriage the wife has a leak that neither her husband nor anyone else can fill. She doesn't believe she is a worthwhile person.

Aku memang FAIL bab fesyen.. it's time to change my image!

Sumber artikel dari sini..  ada lanjutan.. baca kat situ jugak k.

10 sebab wanita curang boleh baca kat sini  =)

Ok ler.. cam tak siap jer entri aku.. wakaka..  what are your thoughts?

Wanita curang sebab ape?

Semoga kawan-kawan aku yang menghadapi masalah rumah tangga dapat mengatasinya dengan aman. Gerun plak bab kahwin-kahwin neh... tambah-tambah lagi apabila baca entri En Mazidul pasal poligami.. huhu..